Anger, lost patience, hot-head provoking situations and dopey darlings of human beings can be awfully educational; As much as we would prefer them not to be, especially in the heightened times of alarming emotions.
Whether it be the dog making you lose that last straw of patience, be it the slow walkers on the street making you loose your mind, loud eaters, slow cycle'rs, traffic, you name it, I've got it under my list of pet hates.
In the height of patience testing the last thing we would think of doing here is wonder what this insightful situation is trying to teach us;
Especially when the dog won't remove my toes from his mouth! Or when you live in the land of the over- exaggerated Spanish shoutathons who love nothing more to shout- in targeted ears.
All in all we're all beautifully unique human beings who can be awfully annoying now and again. And what I've managed to control is the way I respond to these patience - testers.
How did I manage to control my emotions?
Well the first question is why? Why I wanted to control my emotions.
The reason I started on a this emotion controlling voyage is because the only person who was suffering was me.
The energy I lost, the blood I boiled, the hair that got pulled out was just not worth it anymore. I realised that I was the only one suffering. Nobody was doing anything wrong, it was just me responding psychotically to situations that were beyond my control and a lot of energy got wasted and happiness sacrificed.
This is the reason why.
How I did this.
So the first step I took was to realise that nobody is out to annoy anyone- well, except me sometimes, I do love to annoy the hell out of my other half and wind him up endlessly.
But normal day-to-day humans don't set out to wind anyone up. People don't wake up in the morning with the mindset to wreck people's heads.
When I came to this realization it diffused half the frustration.
I believe that most of us were born innocent even though it might sometimes seem that a lot of people were just born stupid and annoying.
The second step and the most important was to reflect inwards. Why am I reacting to this so angrily? Maybe there's a hidden problem? We need to really look deep inside ourselves and emotions and pick at the layers to uncover any trapped anger, sadness or frustration.
The third step is to stop and wait ten seconds from when the anger sparks off and observe yourself, take 5 deep breaths and be in the moment.
That 10 second pause is the key and sometimes the solution to disarming anger and any anticipated drama.
-Your Life Drive